How long has it been since you took yourself on a date? Months, years…NEVER…
Whether you have a certain someone or you frolic free, dating yourself is one of the most gratifying divine experiences we can provide for ourselves. Whether your someone who generally gravitates toward being around others at all times or enjoy your alone time, taking yourself on a date can re-establish a relationship with ourselves that you might forgotten exsisted.
I took myself on a date last night, and blew myself away!! So much of the time we compromise our true desires simply because there is so much going on around us. The point of a self date is to be able to focus on one thing: YOU!!
When going on a date with yourself, ask yourself the same questions you would if you were taking someone else out.
What would they like to eat?
What time of the day should we experience together?
How are we going to get there?
What do we do if there’s awkward silences?
How can I show them who I am?
What will impress them?
Now replace all those “them’s” and “we’s” to “I’s” and ask the same questions.
No matter if you have an hour, an entire day, or simply a moment…make that moment a date with yourself.
My favorite way to give myself a moment, is making myself a luscious hot drink and sitting myself in a drenching sunlit spot. A spot so brilliantly bright in sunshine, that I blind myself. In that blinding light, and with that self made gift in my hand, I easily recognize myself.
So here are a few hints to help you design your own self date…
1. Ask yourself: If money were no object, and time was of no effect…where would I go today, what would I do? What would I eat? What would I drink? What environment do I want to hang out in? How will I get there? What have I wanted for so long, but deprived myself?
All these questions should be answered pre-date. These answers will help get you to the point of action.
2. Prepare for your date with as much fervor and detailed attention to yourself as if you were meeting someone for the first time:
3. Announce to your world that you are going on a date and you are unavailable to anyone else while this is happening. Dates by yourself can be easily derailed by an unexpected phone call that you feel you should take, errands that have to be done, impromptu conversations and life duties that tend to get your attention before you. Once others know you respect your time, they will respect it too.
4. Although you plan out your date, leave a little wiggle room of the unexpected whim you might encounter. Set the element of suprise up for yourself. Stay open to the winds shifting your attention, to signs and symbols.
5. Make sure to tell yourself how much you enjoyed the date and time. Ask yourself, would you go on another date with me? I’m gonna guess the answer is going to be a big heaping divine, absooooolutely!!
I would love to hear your after date reviews!! Post how it went here, and inspire others to take the time for themselves.