Present circumstances have me thinking about all the ways long distant relationships have played a part in my life. At first glance, it always hurts to part from friends, loved ones, and family. Actually at first, second and third glance, it hurts to part from those we have held so dear. Much of that feels as if a part of us will be flying away for an inconceivable amount of time.
Today I share coping mechanisms, tips and tricks, and opportunities that the long distant relationships can offer. I have, and have always had a nomadic heart, and one of the consequences of that is being the one that’s leaving and acquiring yet another long distant relationship. From a very young age, while I was still dreaming and yearning for the unknown wandering road,
I was aware that the majority of my relations would be physically distant. The most important thing I’ve learned now from living through this time and time again, is the multi-spectral rainbow of relationships we acquire through a lifetime can bond stronger through the distance. Here’s my best advice:
LEAVE A TRAIL OF BREADCRUMBS-Much like exploring a pitch black cave for the first time, you’ll want to stay connected with where you feel is safe. As you part, leave something behind specifically for the person or loved one. It will signify that this parting is something special and should be held onto. As your journeys pull apart, you can keep sending back honing signals that will create a trail connecting the two of you. This way its hard to feel as if you lost something. Drawings, tokens, little music boxes, magic stones, and memento’s of your connection.
HANDWRITTEN LETTERS/ SNAIL MAIL – Tide and true, messages that can be physically delivered and touched relay a sense of closeness that is hard to achieve any other way. The fact that it continues to be a dying form of communication makes it ever more precious, and solidify’s bonds. It’s such a sensorial treat to touch something your loved ones touched, to smell where they were when they mailed it, to be apart of a present moment when so far away. In a world where we try to make everything convenient and complex, taking the time to put together mail can squash the symptoms of longing.
START BRAND NEW – When my grandmother past when I was in university, I hadn’t ever developed the relationship I craved with her.
And now the death of a past physical life was creating a forever distant relationship. One that was never cultivated seemed too difficult to hold onto as the weeks went by. I realized after a few months that her passing was a ticket to us being able to start over. I realized I was talking to her, asking for her help and guidance, laughing with her, and a year later felt more connected with my Grandma than I had the length of our living relationship.
PLAN SYNCOPATED MOMENTS – Whatever the distance, planning to be at a certain location at the same time to watch and experience the same thing can make the world shrink till you are sitting right next to one another experiencing the same feeling.
As long as you have the feeling of your relationship you can be millions of miles away and experience the notion of closeness. Plan a moment to both star at the moon, or be looking over the same photographs at the same time
What are some of your tactics for long distance relationships, whether it be friendship, romantic, familiar?
Being on the road a lot has procured a collage of relationships I never could have imagined and staying connected through the distance has been one of my life’s greatest inspirations. Let’s stay connected!!
Comment with your experiences and tips for staying connected through the distance…See ya FRIDAY for the first installment of THE DUSTY MOON ROAD, adventure series!!!!!
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